《识人七法》

志、变、识、勇、性、廉、信

问之以是非而观其志；
穷之以辞辩而观其变；
咨之以计谋而观其识；
告之以祸难而观其勇；
醉之以酒而观其性；
临之以利而观其廉；
期之以事而观其信。

If you can read that far...

I believe this is a world full of distraction.
One that feeds on your inaction.

Everyone wanted to have a dream,
to be like others, be kings and queens.

Some struggled to prove their identity,
while some others creates new personality.

Everyone thinks they have the right conviction,
and with that, this will be their life commitment.

Some cares only about progression,
while some just wants more attention.

We wanted to be always happy-go-lucky,
but sometimes, you really can't afford to be lazy.

While you may define your life goal differently,
Why must we only focus in one thing only?

It may seems that, this is the way to be,
but can't we thrive, for everything there is to see.

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So why not?

Valedictorian who sports daily,
Attention-seeker who cares kindly,
Muscle-builder who reads mindfully,
Kids who learn patiently,
Narcissist who talks humbly,
or maybe,
Facebooker who treats me nice food seriously.

All of us started with choices we didn't make; your name, your parents, your race, your everything there is to be decided by yourselves.
While we can always improvise what we already have instead of changing it, your beliefs, your names, your savings, your friends, etc etc, Why not always go for more? Unless you are already in your own sweet little comfort bubble, then please do not forget that making one choice doesn't always necessarily means that you have to forgo others.

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I works like zombie,
laughs like crazy,
sports weekly,
nerds daily,
tries hardly,
falls deeply,
selfishly,
talkatively,
trying to be the best of myself.

I make choices that I needed to, because I want to.
If I can't beat the strong, I will, join the strong.
No matter I will end up strong, or end up wrong,
I am, song leong.
I am, July's gladiolz.
I am, going to sleep soon.

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There's nothing different about me, everything I said above, is all me. But you who are reading this, top students, top cosers, managers, supervisors, engineers doctors auditors (sorry I no lawyer friend here deal with it)...
Live your life to the fullest, by walking in more than one way.
I may always be ignoring heroes wannabe like u all, but that doesn't mean you can't be more than what you are now.
Guys who acts like mature boi, go get a girl for real, works for real, get a real commitment,
Girls who act like they are dead serious in their life,
..I have no comments coz girls are scary.

Just, care about ur health while u care too much about ur works n studies;
care about your brain content while u care too much about ur reputation,
care about ur friends and families while u care too much about being successful YOLO-er,
care about being a real woman a real guy a real son or daughter, whoever you are; walks proudly, knowing that you are always on the right tracks to be someone who shines in more than one way.

Strive.
Kay?
Then belanja me makan,
kay kay?

Don't be distracted by my nonsense,
kay?
I promise I will be the best of your friend...
provided nasi lemak rendang, ice cre//oiiiii
‪#‎Rant‬ ‪#‎CozIthinkpeopleOnlyFocusinOneThing‬ ‪#‎Why‬‪#‎ShouldIcleanupMyAccountAndTalktoMyself‬? ‪#‎Idontwantslackerfriend‬‪#‎Idontwantoldme‬ ‪#‎Ionlywantcurrcychicken‬ ‪#‎freeOneOkay‬

Who are you? (Part II)

Which one are you?

Which one hits you? Did you lost the person you loved the most and only left with memories? Did you think you became stronger just because you get over Someone? Talk about the benefit of free-thinking, sometimes it has no difference than terrorist -- both lives in their own world and thinks that their thought Matters.

Are you attention seeker who wanted your friends to know that you are doing very, very fine? (blah go travel, go eat, go cafe, go do 'something crazy', go join all the latest hipster event and the trends happening on the town..)

Are you the career obsessed 'leader' or just slaves who are barely getting paid for what you contributed? Oh wait, both are just the same.
Can't you feed your own goatdem mouth and just be happy about it?

Or are you lost? Because sometimes finding a meaning and a goal in life without being negatively pervaded by the thoughts of the people around you just seems so, difficult? Go get a laif! Get....oh wait, that's exactly what I am now o_o sheetz its 130am! goodnight miao!


..I mean, ciao!

but seriously, think about it. #FoodForThought #NeverEnding #SelfReflection #StandAlone

Are you special? (Part I)

Scroll down to the last part for summary kay O.O

Have I ever tell you anecdotes about my life? About all the little things that matters, all the risk taken, the youth gambled, and the life that I missed out in order to take the road less taken. Sounds a bit familiar to your life perhaps?

Whether you are a fervid hobbyist who is destined to carry the flag of #YOLO legacy, or you are one whose youth had been impoverished by hours and nights of career building. Have you ever wondered whether all these history-making moment are not exactly just an excuse for us to escape boredom and loneliness?

Did we followed the footpath of general social media, to capture all the beauty of cafes, to drink all the good coffees in the world, to do all the extreme sports to feel unique, to travel to different country in search of life, to be the hipster who are ever so ready to take on the world, but are never ready to take on a commitment. A mortgage, marriage, career plan, children, the dreams of not yours but the one who raised you up -- your very own parents.

Oh or perhaps you are the one on the other shore -- ka-ching! nuff' said.
Money buys time, time to daydream, time to travel, time to spent with family, and it buys flight tickets too,
property, insurance, saving plans, and that includes your favorite watch or handbag.
Let's go with the simple formula and take the 'safer path', or we can pretend to be young by doing both! We can climb the corporate ladder, earn ample amount of income, and spent it as if we are random refugee who started poor and shook the world by accomplishing something great.

Anyhow, we just wanted to prove to ourselves that we are more than what we are.

But are we ever any less than what we are supposed to be?

Or if you are the dreamer who are lost, the faithful sailor of the Ship of fools, here's the question to be asketh, Does your emotion matters? Does your opinion matters? Does being perfect matters?




Me? I will still stubbornly hold into this principle, of sharing attitude but not emotion, sharing experience and wisdom but not self-opinion nor self-esteem, sharing a little thoughts in this article, and that's the best I can manage, for now.
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重点hidden here, that is if you are not the 'reader' type

TL;DR? (Too Long, Dont want to Read?)
Nah it's just random rambling of an old guy. That's all xD

Rant of the day: why does everyone let themselves be defined by anything else other than themselves? The society, the trends, the forcibly infused dreams, the artificial sense of proud and self-esteem, money, and... attention.
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The Art of Happiness - Dalai Lama

Let's have a quick and simple reading trip to the world of the master of his own mind.
#RandomComment

“We need to learn how to want what we have NOT to have what we want in order to get steady and stable Happiness”
#Deep

“Although you may not always be able to avoid difficult situations,you can modify the extent to which you can suffer by how you choose to respond to the situation.” 
#Worksforme

“When life becomes too complicated and we feel overwhelmed, it’s often useful just to stand back and remind ourselves of our overall purpose, our overall goal. When faced with a feeling of stagnation and confusion, it may be helpful to take an hour, an afternoon, or even several days to simply reflect on what it is that will truly bring us happiness, and then reset our priorities on the basis of that. This can put our life back in proper context, allow a fresh perspective, and enable us to see which direction to take.” 
#Chillkay #OnlyfortheStressedoutOnes

“Self satisfaction alone cannot determine if a desire or action is positive or negative. The demarcation between a positive and a negative desire or action is not whether it gives you a immediate feeling of satisfaction, but whether it ultimately results in positive or negative consequences.” 
#Golden! #FirstworldHipsterproblem #Yoloisatrend

“I think that if one is seeking to build a truly satisfying relationship, the best way of bringing this about is to get to know the deeper nature of the person and relate to her or him on that level, instead of merely on the basis of superficial characteristics.”

“regret with dignity and grace.” 

“Compassion can be roughly defined in terms of a state of mind that is nonviolent, nonharming, and nonaggressive. It is a mental attitude based on the wish for others to be free of their suffering and is associated with a sense of commitment, responsibility, and respect towards others.” 

“By mobilizing our thoughts and practicing new ways of thinking, we can reshape our nerve cells and change the way our brains work.” 

“The psychoanalyst and social philosopher Erich Fromm claimed that humankind’s most basic fear is the threat of being separated from other humans. He believed that the experience of separateness, first encountered in infancy, is the source of all anxiety in human life. John Bowlby agreed, citing a good deal of experimental evidence and research to support the idea that separation from one’s caregivers – usually the mother or father – during the latter part of the first year of life inevitably creates fear and sadness in babies. He feels that separation and interpersonal loss are at the very roots of the human experiences of fear, sadness, and sorrow.” 

#Goodreads
for
#Selfimprovement

一轮明月下的观点

宁静之夜中的公园， 倒映在湖畔的月光， 刷过树叶的风声， 携手散布的情侣， 玩乐的孩子们， 运动的健身狂; 这样的夜晚， 自然景观中， 偷懒的我， 活在当下。
#Twitter xD

-Hunting wolves-

Social media:
A pack (wolves): The first 3 are the older or sick and they set the pace of the group. If it was on the contrary, they would be left behind and lost contact with the pack. In ambush case they would be sacrificed. The following are the 5 strongest. In the center follow the remaining members of the pack, and at the end of the group follow the other 5 stronger. Last, alone, follows the alpha wolf. It controls everything from the rear. That position can control the whole group, decide the direction to follow and anticipate the attacks of opponents. The pack follows the rhythm of the elders and the head of the command that imposes the spirit of mutual help not leaving anyone behind.



..Sounds cool right?




The truth:
The compelling and inspirational story about teamwork, it’s not true.

David Attenborough took the photo in question for the BBC’s “Frozen Planet” Series in 2011. It shows 25 timber wolves hunting bison in Wood Buffalo National Park in Canada. The female alpha wolf led the pack, and the others followed in a single file line to save energy as they made their way through deep snow, according to the environmental website Benvironment.

Wolf packs are typically about half the size of the pack pictured in the photo from 2011. Most packs don’t hunt prey the size of bison (which is 10 times the size of a wolf), but the larger pack is able to. And the wolves walking in a single file line through deep snow is a classic example of how they’re able to use weather conditions to their advantage while hunting prey that’s much larger than them.

Also, the idea that wolves have to be on the lookout for “ambushes” or attacks isn’t true, either. Wolves are at the top of the food chain and have no natural predators. Aside from turf battles with other wolves (which wouldn’t start in an ambush) bears are the only threat to wolves in Canada. Even so, experts say that bears are only able to prey on wolf pups because grown wolves are too fast, swift and clever to get caught by them.

La Moralité de Charles Perrault

Fairy tales not as we know it.


To wait a while to find a husband
Rich, good-looking, chivalrous and kind -
This is natural enough,
But to wait a hundred years, always asleep,
You can't find a girl or a woman anymore
Who will sleep so tranquilly.
The Fairytale above seems to tell us
That to put off the bonds of Love,
May make for happier marriages,
And that there is nothing to lose by waiting.
But the fair sex has such a passion
For conjugal intimacy,
That I have neither the strength nor the heart
To preach them that moral.

- Sleeping Beauty


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Children,
especially attractive, well bred young ladies,
should never talk to strangers,
for if they should do so, they may well provide dinner for a wolf.

I say "wolf," but there are various kinds of wolves.
There are also those who are charming, quiet, polite, unassuming, complacent, and sweet, who pursue young women at home and in the streets.
And unfortunately, it is these gentle wolves who are the most dangerous ones of all.

-Red Riding Hood

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Beauty in a woman is a rare treasure that will always be admired. 
Graciousness, however, is priceless and of even greater value. 
This is what Cinderella's godmother gave to her when she taught her to behave like a queen.
Young women, in the winning of a heart, graciousness is more important than a beautiful hairdo. 
It is a true gift of the fairies. Without it nothing is possible; with it, one can do anything.

Deuxième verset de morale:
Without doubt it is a great advantage to have intelligence, courage, good breeding, and common sense. 
These, and similar talents come only from heaven, and it is good to have them. 
However, even these may fail to bring you success, without the blessing of a godfather or a godmother.

- Cinderella

a walk in the Education pathway

Read an article the other day about education systems in Singapore and how it should be restructured to fit the modern society where competition lies in every aspect of life. Should the new initiative focuses on learning process than acing examinations? Or should we face the reality where productivity comes from a culture of rote-learning?

While it is true that schools and universities are place for you to make friends, to learn more about this world in a smaller, protected scale before you stepped outside to this vibrant yet potentially dangerous world of 'adults', of 'reality'. Where does education comes in really? It might be a good food for thought for many but I think the answer is quite apparent once you've seen enough of the bigger world.

Life skill: the sooner you learn it, the better it is. How to socialise, how to know where your passion lies and how to say no to things that shouldn't be part of your life. This is often what the westerner known as the entrepreneur life.
Practical skill: where technicality, and effort, makes everything. This on the other hand is what makes you 'useful' in asian's point of view. But does being 'useful' feels as rewarding as your other passion in life, If you have any? Or does it matter to even compare between the two if your life priority comes with managing expectation of others before following your own heart.

Does it matters? Says the asians.
Why not? Says the westerners.
Who cares. Says the gen-Y.

Ultimately, education became the part of civilization where it no longer pushes humanity to a higher level, but rather serves as a measuring tool to separate humans into different society ranking, thus determines their living standards. Does the original purpose of education became obsolete? Must we move on? And if yes, where to?

Isn't this the very basic question that should be answered in your process of finding your own meaning in life while you are at schools and uni? You decide what you want to do with your life, then pick up the skills and capability you need, before moving forward to realise that very dream.
Or are you someone who just feels reluctant to step out of your comfort zone, and feels safer following the crowds? Graduate, fall in love, fall out of love, plays, work, travels, work, plays, fall in love, get married, repeat the cycle indefinitely and.... who cares.
Does it matter if you do otherwise?

That sounds exactly like a typical chinese or gen-Y these days, even my colleagues who are tens of ages elder than me might say the same and does the similar.
But if you ask me the same: who cares?

I would.
And I do.

By now I hope you have found your answer too... so let's move forward pals. See you in the near future! ;)

That's why I am scared

“You say you love rain, 

but you use an umbrella to walk under it. 

You say you love sun, 

but you seek shelter when it is shining. 

You say you love wind, 

but when it comes you close your windows. 

So that's why I'm scared when you say you love me.”

..didnt know who wrote this but it sounds so 文青 lol. Good ones.

Enjoy the rain and the rainbow that comes with it! ;)

The past 365 days - 2015

2016
Another year with resolution.
Few days before it was the year where I made my resolution centered around the principle of "survival" and "apoptosis"
And I did made it just like the year before that one, pheww it was sure a harsh path taken.

I could have list down things I did that sorta makes me feel that I am not so lifeless yet xD
Finished a whole series of k-drama and j-drama, completed two games in short amount of time.
Totally not something that I would usually do xD

That being said, youtube videos and mobile games are still largely part of my entertainment-routine, so I decided to cut off major part of it!
Lesser FGO and ToS for me soon! Hmmm I wonder how >< Anyway gonna be firm about my resolution! (Y)

Next in line: ViperChallenge! >:D Who wanna join with me? xD

总算穿荆度棘过了高起伏的一年~
站在世界的两岸，看到的一边是忽悠忽悠着的海子们，快乐忧愁当饭吃；
另一边则是无止境为‘人生’打着仗的故友们。
盲目冲刺的，失去方向的，原地踏步的，自我娱乐的，总结上其实就是会自我安慰的人能力真的太强大啦！！
当然这只是给那些不怎么上进的孩子和小大人们的用词，请你们不要学我那么懒啦，这是我的标记好不！ :P

至于很多为自己真实梦想而冲刺着的朋友们。谢谢这一年来保持联络过的。。
终于开了自己经营的咖啡店的小老板，不分昼夜照顾病人又不停自我升值的小护士，数月隔绝电脑网络世界来探索人生的建筑师，从不停止脚步的纽西兰赛高鸭子，时间被工作打劫了还逼着把人生排第一的师姐友伴们，给你们个大大的赞！ (Y)